Featured Femme Anastasia

Throughout the 2 decades that I had been massaging, there have been questions asked of me from clients and acquaintances that have been repeated consistently. I am always interested in how people are portrayed in media, and find that it almost never matches up with my own experience. I do know that throughout my lifetime, often when I met a woman who I instantly clicked with - and thought wow, she is awesome!!! There has been an element of her life or past that was secretly, or not secretly very sexual. 

I find women who have explored work that moves sexual energy - hands on, or hands off - have an inner fire and zest that can sometimes be shut down in others who have suppressed it. Let me be clear, I’m not saying that people who don’t work with sexual energy have suppressed sexual energy, I’m saying that when I’ve connected with women who do - it is always there. 

I met Anastasia relatively recently and instantly felt her energy, she was someone I knew that I wanted to get to know better.. And the more I know about her the better she gets. I am grateful she accepted the invitation to be a featured Femme on his performance, and to open the curtains for a peek behind the scenes of what someone who does this kind of work is like! 

Anastasia is multifaceted, creative as brilliant as she is beautiful, and describes herself as a Hetaira, rather than choosing a more limited term that only scratches the surface of what she does: model, masseuse, companion, scientist, artist, photographer, professional brand consultant….

To explain, the term Hetaira means female companion, and is one of a class of professional independent courtesans of ancient Greece who, besides developing physical beauty, cultivated their minds and talents to a degree far beyond that allowed to the average woman. Usually living fashionably alone, or sometimes two or three together, the hetairai enjoyed an enviable and respected position of wealth and were protected and taxed by the state, with freedom greater than married women, who were bound to seclusion.

What do you like about it?

It makes me so happy to know that I am a positive peaceful, calm, and healing presence in my clients’ lives. I always tell clients that I’ll know I did a good job if they sleep really really well that night.

Do you ever have issues with a partner not liking your work?

Nope. I am single with no plans to change that status anytime soon. :)

What are your clients like? What kind of people are looking for that kind of thing?

I think my client type varies, but across the board, they are people who are looking for a high-end, trusting, well-rounded massage experience. Club Dynasty, the spa that I work at as well, is a fully licensed sensual massage spa, so I get a lot of clients there as well who tell me they’re so happy to have a massage experience that doesn’t feel sleazy. I think it’s important for clients to have a relaxation and pleasure outlet that is respectful and positive!

Here is the question that everyone wants to know, do you get turned on while you are working?

It really depends. I am a human after all!

Haha ok.  Vague and diplomatic.  I'm sure it depends on the context, and the way the person behaves. I have been asked that so many times, and I think it's difficult for some guys to imagine touching a woman and not getting turned on by it.  But it's like any other situation "it depends."   Here is another one: 

Do you ever date clients?

I haven’t yet, but I’d be open to it, depending on if it ends up being the right person! I’d never say never. :)

Have you ever had to kick someone out of a session?

I’ve never had to kick someone out of a session before per se, but I’ve had to give someone the option to leave a session before, only once. In sessions, it is incredibly important that there is mutual respect. That includes my boundaries as to how the session is run and what I am comfortable with, especially if it’s my first time with a client.

When a new client off the bat comes in stating that they want to do a session differently than how I do it without even asking me how I run sessions, or they demand to sit up or stand up when I’ve asked them to lie down, it’s a giant red flag to me, because it demonstrates that they don’t care if I feel physically comfortable or safe.I’m picky with my new clients and I have high standards as to my booking process and vetting process because it weeds out potential clients who don’t have respect for me as a person.

You must see a lot… what is the craziest experience you’ve had with a client?

Obviously we have lots of stories that are funny, but when it comes to providing an outlet for clients who are exploring kink and more niche experiences, that is par for the course and it’s funny but I also respect those clients deeply. I think in terms of just objectively bonkers, I would say the craziest experience I had with a client was a new client who came to the spa I work at, and asked if he could scream when he finished. I politely told him that no, he couldn’t, because there were other people around and it would be inappropriate in a busy spa setting. He still screamed when he came, and it was worse than I thought he was even implying: it wasn’t even like a brutally loud moan— he literally shrieked at the top of his lungs. Like a high pitched, incredibly loud shriek. And then he just got up and went on his merry way as if nothing had happened.

Another time, and this is why while I don’t judge anyone, I don’t recommend coming to a session inebriated or on recreational drugs, I had a client who, unbeknownst to me, had taken ketamine (like, the horse tranquilizer that doubles as a literal hallucinogen) with his friend before they came to the spa I work at, and I guess he took too much or he didn’t realize how hardcore of a drug ketamine is. This man started k-holing on the massage table. Luckily I was still massaging his back, fully clothed, and it was only 15 minutes into the session so I was able to switch gears into protective-woman mode very quickly, and was able to listen and help lead him through what was a very unexpected trip for him in a completely foreign environment. Obviously there was no happy ending involved whatsoever.

I think the craziest experience I’ve had personally for me was when a first time client came into the spa that I worked at and didn’t realize he had signed up for a happy ending massage. When it was time for him to flip over, I was about to get to work (lol) and he was like “what are you doing?”, and I was like, “what do you mean what am I doing?”. He ended up being pleasantly surprised, but it could have gone in a completely different direction.

Oh that is hilarious, what a surprise. I have a friend who booked his very conservative buddy an erotic massage at a spa, without telling him that it was an erotic massage. He poor guy literally passed out. The spa called my friend in a panic to come get him and said they would call the police or 911 if he didn’t come right away. To this day, the guy who passed out denies any memory of the entire experience… and no longer trusts my friend. I wouldn’t either. 

Years ago, before I implemented a rule that I do not see couples unless I speak to the woman on the phone, in private, without her partner listening in.. I used to trust that when a couple said they were both in on the email. One guy booked a sensual massage for his wife, he dropped her off and she had NO IDEA what she was walking into. He didn’t tell her. She was really angry, but that is a story for another day. 

What’s the sexiest experience you’ve personally had while working?

t’s hard to name one, but I find that any experience where I am able to teach clients more about their own bodies and their own pleasure are the most intimate types of experience. My priority is always the client’s pleasure so I don’t find that the lines get super blurred in that way, but of course there’s a deeper and more authentic connection when a session is rooted in exploration, or when there is a great rapport.

What advice would you give to a guy who wants to go and get some kind of sensual service, from you or elsewhere?

Be open about your wants and needs. If you have an injury that you don’t want us to touch, let us know from the get go. If it’s your first time experiencing a sensual massage and you feel nervous, let us know. Trust that we want to provide an incredible experience for you. And if you’re going the spa route, don’t go to an unlicensed spa. I know girls who have worked at unlicensed spas and are still healing and recovering from those experiences.

What should a guy never do or say during a session?

I get guys who ask if I do full service all the time. The answer is always no. What a guy should not do is get upset with a masseuse for not offering full service. If you want full service, hire an escort!

For me personally, I get a lot of guys that comment on my breasts (as men always do), and they phrase it as “Your breasts are so beautiful. Most men love bigger breasts, but I think yours are amazing.” I had one guy ask me why my breasts are “the way they are” (ie a 32A cup). Personally I love my body and I love my breasts and I have no plans to change them, so like guys, if you like my breasts just say that you like them!

I have to jump in here on this one, as it remains - to this day - my biggest beef about the experience with massage in Canada. I am really clear about what I offer, and really clear that I have zero tolerance to requests for anything outside of a clearly defined service and very specific boundaries. The absolute worst thing is when someone starts trying to negotiate and ask for more, or something completely different. It’s like going to the auto-mechanic and asking if they will fix your washing machine while they’re at it, and then feeling offended and upset that they won’t. This isn’t exclusive to men either, and it’s infantile and disrespectful. 

What is spectacular about your skills and abilities that make it a must-experience for someone looking?

Honestly, I think that my best skill is that whenever I have a client come in who says that it is there first time experiencing a sensual massage and they’re very nervous, they always leave the session surprised at how comfortable I was able to make them feel from the get-go. I’ve heard great things about my massage and sensually as well, but I believe that what makes me stand out is my ability to foster a safe, trusting and enjoyable atmosphere for clients.

Is it possible to see you? Like if someone wanted to get in touch with you or even work with you - how would they do that?

I have a website! It’s www.mymassagegoddess.com. All of my info, including my hours, contact info, pricing, and my booking system are there.

What is your plan? You’re a young woman.. What’s the plan with all this? Or for your future and career?

I’m in university and I’m planning on finishing my undergrad and then doing a master’s degree, so I’d like to be doing sensual work for the foreseeable future. I also genuinely love this field of work, and didn’t expect to so much when I serendipitously fell into the world of sensual massage last summer, so honestly who knows for the long term!

Thank you so much for your time, I hope to see more of you…I think sometimes people have an idea of what kind of person does sensual massage professionally. Or what kind of person gets sensual massage profesionally. We’re all just people, and some people go for what they want, because they want it. I admire that.